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Let's start Flipping 50 with the energy and the vitality you want for this second half! I solve your biggest challenges and answer questions about how to move, what to eat, and when, along with the small lifestyle changes that can make the most difference in the least amount of time. Join me and my expert guests for safe, sane, simple solutions for your second (and better) half!

Dec 11, 2018

Could your biggest obstacle be something even you can't see?

Do you have a hard time getting or staying motivated around fitness and health habits?

You would defend that yes, you want to be fit, you want to be active and eat well and know you would feel better … but you seem to start and stop.  

You want to be someone who gets up in the morning or goes for a walk every afternoon, who orders healthfully at restaurants even when others don’t. But you can’t quite get there.

What if something you never suspected could be your biggest obstacle to weight loss, optimal energy, or ultimately your best life? 

Today’s episode visits a recurring theme of emotions that could be tied to your self-sabotage and be a form of self-protection.  Let's unpack your biggest obstacle. 

Dr. Debi Silber, founder of The PBTInstitute, is a Transformational Psychologist and a health, mindset, and personal development expert. She's an award-winning speaker, coach and author of the Amazon #1 Bestselling book: The Unshakable Woman: 4 Steps to Rebuilding Your Body, Mind and Life After a Life CrisisThe Unshakable Woman-The Workbook (the companion guide to the book) as well as 2 books recommended by Brian Tracy, Marshall Goldsmith and Jack Canfield.

Her doctoral study led to two discoveries around how women experience and heal from betrayal. Based on her findings, along with 27 years of health, mindset and lifestyle coaching, she's created a proven approach to help women heal (physically, mentally and emotionally) from a life crisis, specializing in betrayal.

In this episode Debi reveals how this biggest obstacle to personal growth might be the biggest breakthrough. 

In Debi's words:

"When we trust someone, we believe we can be vulnerable, we’re loved, protected, valued and safe. We believe that the other person has the same values, beliefs and level of integrity that we have. We believe that they’re honoring the same agreement, sharing the same priorities, and living by the same rules. We believe those we’ve given our trust to would never do anything to violate that sacred contract… until they do. This is the powerful and painful process of betrayal."

Questions I asked Debi in this episode:

  • Have you been there? Was it personal before it became a professional passion?
  • What’s post betrayal syndrome and how do we know if we have it?
  • What are some physical symptoms of betrayal, some emotional and mental symptoms?
  • What are the questions we can ask ourselves to see if we’re numbing/avoiding/distracting ourselves?
  • What’s Post Betrayal Transformation and how is it different from posttraumatic growth?
  • How do we know if we haven’t healed from a betrayal?
  • What are the 5 stages from betrayal to breakthrough that were discovered in your study?
  • What do we need to do to move forward and heal from a betrayal experience?
  • You talk about that we can either prevent or heal from a life crisis-what do you mean? How do people try to prevent a life crisis?

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Twitter: @debisilber


Have you experienced a betrayal of some kind that's become your biggest obstacle? Or overcome your biggest obstacle? I'd love to hear from you.